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Twofer Tuesday: On Ultimate Truths & Paying it Forward

Most of us operate from a place of good intentions. At least, that’s something I believe to be true. Yet help can be something of a mixed bag. These Twofer articles explore the flip sides of help. The first examines 12 powerful truths, including the fact that “help” is sometimes a thinly veiled attempt at control. The second explores the positive effects of offering true help — no strings attached!

Speaking the Truth

Writer Anne Lamott isn’t the first person to contemplate what she does, in fact, truly know for sure. But that doesn’t stop her list of 12 things she’s “almost positive about,” delivered during her compelling TED Talk, from informing, inspiring and even transforming.

Anne’s Truth No. 3 is especially resonant: “If it’s someone else’s problem, you probably don’t have the answer, anyway. Our help is usually not very helpful. Our help is often toxic. And help is the sunny side of control. Stop helping so much. Don’t get your help and goodness all over everybody.”

In other words, stop offering so many answers; instead, start asking more questions.

Watch: 12 truths I learned from life and writing

The Gift of Giving

Does helping someone out put undue pressure on the receiver to return the favour? Or can an act of kindness inspire others to pay it forward, creating a ripple effect of goodness throughout a community or organization?

Happily, this article shows that altruism can be contagious — and that we all stand to benefit from lending a hand when we can.

Read: Small acts of kindness at work benefit the giver, the receiver and the whole organisation

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